4 Hidden Reasons why Kim kardashian is splitting with Chris Humphries

How to turn your marriage around in 72 days or less

After a mere 72 days of marriage Kim Kardashian has initiated divorce proceedings from her husband Chris Humphries?

Why?

Kim Kardashan claims irreconcilable differences on her divorce papers. She also claimed that intuition and her heart are prompting the move?

Whatever the motives, from an expert point of view there are several reasons why divorces happen in such short space of time:

  1. The marriage was based on chemistry alone
  2. She is over reacting to what is commonly called ‘marital remorse’
  3. No compatibility skills
  4. Lack of commitment
  5. It was a business arrangement or publicity stunt

Let have a brief look at what is happening to Kim Kardashian and Chris Humphries. Apparently from all reports they got together last November and had a whirl wind romance. No doubt they were sexually involved. This type of early chemistry in a relationship do tend to skew the process of bonding and intimacy. The strong sensual and sexual feelings overwhelms the people involve – in this case Kim and Chris – and they believe that they are powerfully in love with each other.

Love is made up of three essential parts:

·         Chemistry

·         Compatibility

·         Commitment

 

Kim Kardashian and Chris Humphries had a lot of chemistry. So much so that they thought it was all they need. So they went right ahead and sealed the deal in a US $10M wedding.

However when they began living together the chemistry gave way to reality. Ironically Kim Kardashian is a reality TV star. I think that she had a bid of ‘marital remorse.’

What is ‘marital remorse?’

Marriage remorse is similar to buyers’ remorse.

Have you ever happily bought something and began to have doubts about it later? At the time of buying you felt it was a great decision however after some time you begin to think that you got a rotten deal or the thing didn’t live up to your expectations.

Most newly weds go through a period where they wonder if they really made the right decision.

Sometimes it because they see something in their spouse they never saw before and they are frightened that they will have to live with it for the rest of their lives. This can be very unnerving.

It could be that Kim and Chris Humphries began to see things in each other that they did not see before. Maybe Kim has flash backs on past failed relationships because of something Chris did or said. This may have brought on feelings of déjà vu which horrified her and she decided to jump ship before it gets worst. This is perhaps what she is calling intuition or her heart.

This brings me to what I would call compatibility.

Kim and Chris need to learn how to become compatible.

Oh, you say, compatibility has to be natural. Not really, compatibility can be learnt like anything else.

They need to learn each other. Obviously this will take time. But it can be learnt in 72 days. It takes about 21 days to develop a new habit.

Kim and Chris also need to be committed. Commitment is one of the single greatest threads running through the lives of long standing happily married people.

Commitment in the case of Kim Kardashian and Chris Humphries would mean that they get rid of the divorce option.

I say that to save their marriage, your marriage or any other marriage, divorce should not be an option. The only exceptions would be in the case of life threatening violence and addiction.

When divorce is not an option then you are free to explore all the other available alternatives that will make the marriage work.

My advice to Kim Kardashian is to withdraw the divorce papers and give love a chance.

You will always have romantic bad times and good times; highs and lows; ins and outs. But guess what these will help you to bond and grow with each other.

If you are struggling with your marriage don’t be too hasty. Give love a chance. If you want to learn how to turn your marriage from bad to good; good to great contact me today.

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