How can you tell that your relationship is in troube before it breaks apart.
In this article I will show you 6 signs your relationship is in trouble
What are re-enforcements?
These are usually verbal comments that make the other person feel good about themselves. They serve to reassure the person of your love; some good thing about them or what they do.
Reinforcement can come in the form of
- Common courtesy
- Words of admiration and adorations
- Thumps up
- High five
- Hugs of appreciation
- Rewarding gifts
If your spouse was accustom to doing any of the above stop doing it, this can be sign that something is beginning to happen which can lead to serious trouble.
What is even worst is if the person not only stops positive reinforcement but also start to give in negative messages.
- Rolling your eyes
- Kissing your teeth
- No courtesy towards the person
Uncertainty starts when you begin to notice the person is not relating to you in the way they use to before.
- The affection and attention stops.
- You are not sure where you stand in the relationship?
- You somehow don’t seem to be able to trust their word.
It is an uneasy and uncomfortable situation that nags at you and make you want to find out exactly where you stand.
This is a sensitive situation because it can make people begin to begin to cling on to their spouse. This clingy or needy attitude actually makes him or her want to pull further away.
Attractiveness to others
When you are going through problems in a relationship, thoughts of other potential mates begin to form in your head.
Members of the opposite sex somehow begin to look pretty or handsome.
This is where couples begin to compare their spouses with other people.
“Look at Jane and Jim. He treats her like a queen. Why can you treat me like that?”
There is also tendency to begin to wonder what it would have been like if you had marry one of your ex’s instead of your spouse.
Lies and deception
Deception: either lying or not telling the entire truth so that you can avoid a nasty argument or save your spouse from getting hurt.
Deception although tempting is very deadly. It leads the other person to have an incorrect perception of you or the situation.
When they find out that they have been deceived the situation is usually even nastier.
They are not only angry with you for deceiving them but they are also upset with themselves not to be able to see through the deception.
Its very difficult for t hem to trust you again.
Honesty is always the best policy – even when it hurts to tell the truth.
The decline in the use of private language
Lovers usually tend to call and talk to each other very private language.
Pet names, unique jokes and intimate language. These tend to disappear when problems appear in the relationship.